More than a dating site
A kind, welcoming space where you can chat, share and meet people who understand.
How members connect
It is not only private messages. Members share, comment and chat in the open too.
Status updates
Share how your day is going, a memory or a small win. Others can reply and say hello.
Photos
Add photos to your profile and post them to share a favourite walk, a recipe or a family day out.
Polls and quizzes
Join in light-hearted polls and quizzes, then comment and see what others think.
Comments
Comment on articles and on other members' posts. A kind word can mean a lot.
Chat rooms and group chats
VIP members can join exclusive chat rooms and create private group chats of up to 50 people, mixing VIP and free members.
Badges
Earn Verified, Chatterbox, Heartthrob and Most Popular badges through activity. They show you are real and active.
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Community guidelines
These are simple. We ask every member to follow them.
- Be kind. Everyone here has lost someone. Speak to others the way you would like to be spoken to.
- No pressure. People heal and move at different speeds. Never push someone to meet, reply or share more than they want to.
- No money requests. Never ask another member for money, gifts or bank details, whatever the reason.
- Keep your profile honest. Use your own recent photos and tell the truth about who you are.
- Respect privacy. Do not share another member's details or conversations.
- Keep chat on the site. Be wary of requests to move to other apps early on.
If something does not feel right
You are always in control. You can block any member instantly so they can no longer contact or see you. You can also report a member or a piece of content quickly from within the site, and our team will look into it. Our support team is available 24/7. Read more on our safety page.
Take your time. Some members join in and chat every day. Others read quietly for a while first. Both are fine. Our blog has gentle advice on being ready and on talking about the partner you lost.