Meeting new people online can be a lovely experience, and most members are exactly who they say they are. Unfortunately, a small number of people try to take advantage of those who are vulnerable, and people who have lost a partner can be targeted. A few simple habits will help you enjoy yourself with confidence.
Protect your personal details
Do not share your home address, financial details, passwords or your full date of birth with someone you have only just met online. Keep conversations on the site until you feel you truly know the person. If someone asks for personal information too soon, take that as a warning sign.
Never send money
This is the most important rule. No genuine friend you have met recently will ask you for money, gift cards or bank details, no matter how convincing the story is. Be wary of anyone who talks about a sudden emergency, a problem with travel, or an investment opportunity. If this happens, stop replying and report them.
Watch for warning signs
- They declare strong feelings very quickly.
- They avoid video calls or always have an excuse not to meet.
- Their photos look too perfect or their story does not add up.
- They try to move you to a private messaging app very early.
- They pressure you to make quick decisions.
Check them out
Do a quick search of their name and photos, and ask questions that help you see whether their story stays consistent. A video call before meeting in person is a good way to confirm they are who they say they are.
Meeting in person
When you decide to meet, choose a busy public place in daylight. Tell a friend or family member where you are going, who you are meeting and when you expect to be home. Travel there and back under your own steps rather than accepting a lift. Keep your phone charged and trust your instincts. If anything feels wrong, leave.
Take it at your own pace
A good match will never mind you going slowly. Lasting connections are built on trust, which takes time. Do not feel guilty about saying no or ending a conversation that makes you uncomfortable.
Report anything suspicious
If you think someone is behaving badly, use the report feature on the site. This helps keep the community safe for everyone. You can read more on our safety page.
